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1st year survived, time for my first blog

Hi my name is Jess and I’m a first time mummy living in Norfolk, I have started this blog because I love being a mummy and I don’t want to forget anything about it.

I would love to reach some mummies and share my experiences, fails and occasional pearls of wisdom.

So here goes ….

Samuel is one year old, how on earth is that possible?! he was a tiny new born last month, well that’s what it seems like.

We decided to have a party, and at the time it did seem like to much work, we’d invite our family and friends and have an informal get together with a drink and some food. How hard can that be? well when you start to plan it quite hard!!

  • There’s invitations to write (or create on vistaprint and get them sent to you)
  • Guest list to write
  • Buffett menu to plan
  • Do I hire soft play?
  • Do I do party bags?
  • Would people expect table decorations?

So after my extensive planning, because I do like a plan, we had a guest list of 67 people and an extensive buffet menu and I was even contemplating hiring some soft play equipment.
I excitedly told my husband my plans and quickly realised if we were to cater for 67 people then I would have to tone down the menu and loose the soft play equipment ( the venue had some soft play toys and a lovely enclosed garden, and we all got a free train ride). We were on a budget after all.

Now if your planning on making a buffet for a party the most important thing is preparation. If you can pick most of your foods that can be prepared/baked 1-2 days in advance this is going to make the morning of the party a lot less stressful. We opted for quiches (baked 2 days before the party), potatoes salad, pasta and salad for the adults and sandwiches, cheese scones, veg sticks and fruit for the babies. I then baked 4 different types of cakes, opting for the quick to prepare and bake recipes, good ‘ole Mary Berry, I managed to get most of these done the day before during Samuel’s two naps.

After I got over the initial stress of the baking day on Saturday, Sunday morning (Samuel’s birthday and day of the party) was surprisingly calm, just the cheese scones to bake and sandwiches to make ( I’d recruited my mother-in-law and my grandma to help with some of the food) I love it when a plan comes together.

It was basically like doing a big cricket tea……unfortunately I have experience of this but that’s for another blog.

We had a lovely day Reepham and Whitwell station it was the perfect venue, the staff were lovely and all our family and friends felt so relaxed. We were so lucky with the weather it was a lovely sunny day, so we made the most of the enclosed garden.

Although we had a lovely day, and I love how funny and cheeky Samuel is at the minute, I was quite sad because it feels like I’ve lost my baby now.He has changed so much in the last few weeks and he is more and more like a toddler every day. He isn’t walking yet but he is very close, and he seems to becoming more and more aware of his own mind. I think he may be just as stubborn as his mummy and daddy!!

We are off to wells tomorrow, my mother-in-law has rented a beach hut for her birthday and all the family will be down there. This will be our first day trip to the beach (we’ve been on dog walks), I’ve got my list and the bags are packed so fingers crossed I haven’t forgot anything.

I’ll let you know how it goes xxx

 

Hello baby . . . 

Introducing Elijah William Meek born 23/03/17 weighing 8lb 10oz, born in the midwifery led unit of the Norfolk and Norwich hospital with just gas and air for pain relief. 

How is Elijah 3 weeks old already ?? 

The last three weeks have come and gone in a blur of night feeds, nappies, visitors, washing ( how is there so much washing, thank fully my mother-in-law has been an amazing washing fairy!!) , toddler temper tantrums, car shopping ( our stupid car decided to break a week before Elijah was due!) and lots and lots of baby and family cuddles.

I’m not gunna lie the last three weeks have been hard work! But completely worth it! 

Adam had two weeks off after Elijah was born which was lovely, the last time we spent two weeks together was when Samuel was born. 

When we came home from the hospital with Elijah, it was 1:30pm just 7 hours after Elijah was born. My mum and sister were there to help us with Samuel which was great because Samuel was very wary of me, I had burst blood vessels all over my face and I looked shattered I was also walking rather strangely ! For a good week and a half Samuel wouldn’t cuddle me or kiss me which was absolutely heartbreaking, we were so close before.
Thankfully Samuel slowly started to give me more attention and affection and he is now back to his normal self! 

Elijah has been amazing he was 8lb 10 oz when he was born and lost just 7oz, we had a midwife appointment today and he is now 9lb 2oz! Feeding is going well, I’m exclusively breast feeding at the moment but I have found this hard as he feeds ALOT!! At least 12 times a day so I may introduce some formula for his last feed at night so Hubby can give him this and I can sleep!! But we will see how it goes. 

The last couple of days Elijah has been a lot more alert when he’s awake, and is now awake for 1-2 hours at a time ! 

Big brother Samuel is (most of the time ) brilliant and very gentle, and patient when I’m feeding Elijah ( although Mummy guilt really does set it if Elijah is having a cluster feeding session ) of course he has his moments when he is tired or hangry!! But for the amount of change he has had to cope with I think he is doing really well. 
I’ll give you a another update in the next few weeks. And more baby spam!! 

My Petit Canard

Life is not always as it seems !! 

I went on my first outing with my two boys on Friday, we went to my friend Ruth’s house for a play date.
It was the first time they had met Elijah and she is due to have baby no. 2 in a week so we were all excited to catch up and talk babies and birth stories ( that’s for another post!)

We had a rather stress free morning, hubby had got Samuel up and dressed so I just had to dress Elijah feed him for the 5th time that day!! And get Samuel and myself some breakfast. There were no temper tantrums, and we got out of the house only 15 mins late !

We were met by lots of cuddles and lots of cake which was amazing, then we got down to what us ladies do best. . . Chatting !

We were chatting about the ups and downs, and how Samuel was adapting to being a big brother. Ruth my friend said to me ‘ well you look like you are coping really well, the photos on Facebook are lovely’

That got me thinking, if I’m doing this ‘blogging’ thing then I need to share more of the imperfect moments, not just on blog posts but on Facebook and Instagram as well. Because although I love my two boys and a lot of the time Samuel is a lovely big brother, there are times when I feel like I can’t cope and Samuel is an absolute terror!

So I promise to give you a more realistic view of A Norfolk Mummy raising two under two!

Rhyming with Wine

Life as we know it is about to change. . . And it’s ok 

Baby no. 2 is due in 5 days and for the first time I’m not panicked by this, there is a sense of calm that’s come over me and everything has just started to fall into place. 
Samuel has been sleeping really well for the past week, every night except one he has slept through 7pm – 7 am which is amazing for him ! We’ve also seem to have cracked his nap, so he now sleeps for 2 hours during the day. The best thing is he actually enjoys going to bed, he loves his bedroom and his cot and all the teddies that join him!
The weathers better! I know it sounds weird but it means when we are at home we aren’t stuck in the lounge with the hum of CBeebies in the background, we can actually play in the garden to the sound of birds, and the odd car. It’s so much better for mine and Samuel’s sanity! 
The house is mostly de cluttered! As we are trying to fit another human being into our little 2 bed house I went on a major de clutter mission and I’m pleased to say it is now finished ( as long as you don’t look in the under stairs cupboard or the shed. . . Or the loft!!) 
Samuel is also becoming more and more independent by the day this is a bit bitter sweet, because I’m loosing my little baby but gaining a very funny toddler. I can’t believe he will be 2 at the end of May no one can prepare you for how quickly the time goes.
Now I’m sure when I have a newborn who has kept me up all night, and Samuel is demonstrating the best of the terrible two’s it may be a different story, but at the moment I feel pretty optimistic that maybe I can do this! Fingers crossed! 

Egg-Gate!!

This weekend we popped into our village for some essentials, and hubby was attending an event to promote the local cricket club. 

So all was going well, we dropped daddy off to set up and wondered into town, Samuel was walking nicely and holding my hand, I was feeling very smug.

This didn’t last long! We went into the local cafe/health food shop to get some yeast for our pizza dough. As I was at the counter paying, Samuel ran away from me, he stopped at a shelve and next thing I knew he had had an egg carton in each hand! He turned round to look at me with the most devilish look on his face and as I said ‘ DON’T YOU DARE!’ He through both egg cartons on the floor!

SMASH!!!
Que mummy’s complete horror! 12 free range eggs completely smashed on the floor, I quickly scrambled together ( eggcuse the pun!!) the eggs and £3.12 and dumped them on the counter and ran out of there with a red face! 
Samuel was promptly put in his pushchair, where he was feeling very pleased with himself ! The ordeal didn’t quite end there though, oh no I ran into a local lady I know and she stopped to have a friendly conversation about when the new baby was due and helping out with the cricket club. Little did she know she had stopped a hormonal pregnant lady who had just had to deal with Egg gate! So half way through the conversation I just burst into tears, in the middle of the market place, it wasn’t even a nice feminine cry it was a proper ugly face cry. 
Looking back on it now I’m sure it was just the hormones that made it seem like the end of the world, but I am now using reins whenever Samuel is not in the pushchair.
I still get him to hold my hand but it is just an extra safety level in case he slips out of my hand. It’s made popping into shops a lot less stressful, because Samuels not even two yet so I can’t really expect him to be able to stay still and hold my hand when there is so many exciting colours and objects in shops. 

My morning of yo yo emotions!

I am currently suffering from (hypothetical) whiplash from the range of emotions I have had this morning. I’ve had to make myself a cup of coffee and eat a pile of biscuits just to recover!

It all started when Samuel woke up this morning!
 First emotion: Pure love as Samuel says ‘Hi Mumma’ as I go into his room this morning.

Second emotion: Anger/Sadness as Samuel hits me in the face while we wave Daddy off to work.

Third emotion: Pride as Samuel walks and talks the whole way from the car to my mums cafe. He then sits and eats his second breakfast really well! 

Fourth emotion: Embarrassment as Samuel lays down on the floor in the bank and won’t get up again.

Fifth emotion: Frustration/Embarrassment /Exhaustion as Samuel decides to get off the floor and instead run in circles around the bank as I waddle after him trying to catch him!

Sixth emotion: Anxiety as I try and get the ladder into the car without waking a sleeping Samuel.

Seventh emotion: Elation as I successfully transfer a sleeping Samuel from the car to his cot with out waking him!! 

No wonder us Mummies and Daddies are knackered at the end of the day !! 
How many emotions have you experienced today?? Let me know by commenting below. 

What have we done. . . How can I look after two babies? 

Ok so I’m having a little freak out, Christmas is over and my head is now full of EVERYTHING that needs doing before baby no. 2 is born in March.

To name a few that I still need to do: finish packing hospital bag, wash all Samuel’s old clothes, buy new clothes that are season appropriate, buy a car seat, fit car seat, de clutter the whole house ( because how are we going to fit another human in our little 2 bed semi), decorate our bedroom ( as this where baby will sleep for maybe up to a year?!).
All while my back feels like it is being punched by a heavyweight boxer, I feel constantly sick and every time I go up and down the stairs I end up having to have a 5 min rest because I’m so out of breath!

So this is what’s going round and round in my head at the moment, not to mention what am I actually going to do when the baby actually gets here. How am I going to split my time between a newborn and a toddler? Will Samuel accept the new baby? Will the housework ever get done? Will people think I’m a slob because the housework hasn’t been done? How am I even going to be able to leave the house with two children in tow?
Isn’t it crazy how many questions can be going round in your head
So for all the people who keep saying ‘are you excited?’ Of course I am but I am also quite concerned about the above!
Now I’ve had a chance to breathe and write down what I’m feeling, i know it will be ok. I may not get out of the house or even my pjs some days, the washing might pile up and the ironing will certainly pile up. But I will do the best for my boys and my husband and try not to stress too much when the housework doesn’t get done. ( I did say too much!!)
How did you manage when you went from one to two children ? If anyone has any tips please comment below 🙂

New year . . . . New goals to try and stick to!

1. Do more craft activities with Samuel – this should be easier now as for Christmas Samuel got a whole craft box full of paints, colours, paper, glue sticky things. 

2. Grow our own veg – this is dependent on Daddy making us a nice veggie patch area in the garden but fingers crossed.

3. Try and stay up passed 8pm more than twice a week to allow quality time with hubby – this may be a little difficult with a newborn due in March but I’m gunna try! 

4. Loose 2 stone for my best friends wedding in August – I’m not looking forward to trying to do this !!

5. Take more photos with my boys – I always shy away from the camera because I haven’t got make up on or I look fat. But I regret it when I struggle to find a photo of me and Samuel or a family photo of all three of us. 

What are you New Years resolutions? 

Our first Christmas at home 

We were adamant we wanted Christmas at home this year and invited my family over for lunch. This was met with some resistance, because who really likes change?, but I got my way in the end and ordered the turkey!
I don’t know why we didn’t do it before, I mean I get to do everything I love the most: plan, make lists, and stay in my lovely cosy home!! 
I was quite nervous about cooking my first Christmas dinner but lucky our friend is a chef so he gave me loads of tips. The best tip of all was ‘cook the turkey Christmas eve’ this was the best thing we could have done, it meant we didn’t have to get up really early to put the turkey in, and we didn’t have to keep nipping out to check the turkey. My husband decided that he had a sudden interest in cooking and like a real man took control of the turkey! Lifting it out of the oven for his weak and feeble wife and basting every hour! We prepared and par-boiled all the veg too. 
Christmas morning was lovely Samuel’s face when he came down and saw all the presents under the tree was one of confusion and excitement. It took ages to open his presents because he was playing with each and everyone of them after opening which made me shed a little tear. He was so pleased with all his toys.  

(Samuel playing with his tea set)

My mum and sister arrived for dinner and after a few pressie’s Samuel went in his cot for a 2 hour nap which was amazing this meant we could get dinner cooked for when he woke up. 


(Our family Christmas dinner)

It was such a chilled out day, all the preparing the day before was worth it! I would definitely do it the same next year.

(Samuel and daddy playing)

We even got out for a walk in the evening to see the Christmas lights around town and to have some tea with my mother and father-in-law.

All in all a pretty perfect day 🙂 

Forced relaxation 

Today was my glucose tolerance test appointment. Better known as ‘forced sit down on your bum and do nothing for 2 hours while we periodically stick needles in your arm’.

I’d been dreading this for weeks, not just because of the 3 blood tests but also the fact that I had to sit in the doctors surgery waiting room for over 2 hours! And not eat breakfast!

All was arranged my mum had turned up to look after Samuel, and off I went with my book ( there is no 3G or wifi at the surgery??!!) and my huge bottle of lucozade.
First blood test was horrible because I have rubbish veins that collapse at the sight of a needle.

I then settled myself into the waiting room for my hour long wait and began to read my book. Before I knew it I was 40 pages in and I was being called back into the surgery for my second blood test.

The nurse was on a roll and had found a good vein so this one was fine.

And I almost looked forward to my next hour of reading!

The next hour didn’t go as quickly because I was getting hungry and often found myself staring into space fantasising about croissants and pastries! But it wasn’t bad!

I did actually feel quite relaxed afterwards and I’ve now got into a really good book that I know I wouldn’t have started otherwise.

So if you have one of these test coming up, they aren’t as bad as they sound and it is nice to force yourself to sit down for a couple of hours and actually relax!

Getting out of a slump

So recently I've been in a bit of a ' I feel lonely, fat, sicky and sorry for myself' slump. It was due to a combination of things including: pregnancy hormones, cancelled play dates due to the dreaded winter tummy bug, hubby being away for work, family being very busy, and just me not feeling like going out and making an effort to see people. You know the usual!!

So this morning I thought right come on Jessica get yourself out of your pyjamas and go to that baby group you’ve been meaning to go to for weeks! It’s in the village I live, I can walk there and it’s free, so I had no excuse!
9:10am came and I got Samuel in the pushchair, bag packed and we left the house. I was so nervous walking down, and when I finally got there I was sweating and ready to run in the opposite direction! ( in a nervous sweater!!)
First mistake: I went in the wrong door! But I was met by a lovely man who showed me through to the baby group, he showed me where the tea and coffee was and another lady offered me a warm crossiant !!!
It’s always a bit awkward when you walk into a room where you don’t know anyone. For the first half an hour me and Samuel just played with the toys and I sat and drank my coffee, while all the other mummy’s who knew each other talked in their groups. But after a while people broke off from their groups and I started to talk to some other mummy’s and I met a lady who had a little boy the same age as Samuel and another on the way due in March, just like me!
There was also a music session at the end that Samuel loved.

We both had a lovely time, and when I got home I had renewed energy!
So the moral of the story is … if your feeling a bit down or lonely, get yourself out there and meet new people! I no it’s easier said then done but try. You’ll feel much better for it!
There’s a great group on Facebook if your local to Norfolk called get me out of the four walls Norfolk. They organise events and meet ups all around Norfolk, I haven’t managed to get to any yet but I’m keeping an eye out.

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