What a difference another baby makes!

No matter how many children you have parenting can be amazing, knackering, frustrating, beautiful and even more tiring!

Before I had Elijah I was excited, but equally as daunted. How was I going to cope with two children ? Two children under two.

When I had Samuel (my first) it was hard because I didn’t no what to expect, I worried all the time. Worst of all I pressured myself to be the image of a ‘perfect mummy’ the image I had created before I had any children!

You no the one, the mummy that will:

  • Never shout
  • Give her children chocolate
  • Let them watch television
  • Bribe her children with the promise of snacks.

I also let other pressures get on top of me, there are so many pressures to exclusively breast feed. I struggled feeding Samuel, it seemed like all he wanted to do is feed. When I cried to the health visitor telling her that he wanted to feed 11,12,13 times a day she just said that’s normal every baby is different. She made me feel bad when I suggested giving him a bottle for a few feeds a day, or maybe I made myself feel bad. Because I had imagined feeding my baby until he was weaned onto cows milk, in the end I gave Samuel 1-2 bottles of formula a day and breast feed the rest of the time until he was 5 1/2 months.

I feel differently now, maybe because I know that we can’t be perfect, that some days you will be super mum and bake the healthy snacks you see on Instagram. Other days you will need ten cups of coffee and the help of Justin fletcher to entertain your little munchkins.

At the moment I am very much the second mummy, but that’s ok Elijah is only 5 weeks old and we are slowly but surely getting used to our new family rhythm, and getting out the house with two little people! (Which is soooo much harder!)

So when I was struggling with feeding 2 weeks ago with Elijah, I spoke to the midwife and asked if it would be too early to start combination feeding. I did feel a bit like a failure because again before I had Elijah my ideal was to exclusively breast feed not just because of all the health benefits but because it was soooo much cheaper, and I didn’t want the faff of making and sterilising bottles! The midwife was so supportive and basically told me I had to do what was best for my family. I agree, Elijah’s feeding was established so there was no problems giving him a little formula, just to give my nipples a few hours break, my milk would still be enough to feed him the rest of the time.

This was the best thing I’ve done because it helped me to continue breastfeeding, I’ve managed to increase my milk flow and I’m now going to try and express a little so I can replace the formula with expressed milk, (but if I can’t that’s ok too).

The great advantage of giving Elijah a bottle is hubby can feed him, he really enjoys this and it’s a lovely bonding experience for them, it’s so lovely to see.

Although the Midwife’s and health visitors really encourage people to breast feed they don’t tell you how hard it can be.

I think the best thing to do is just trust your instincts and do what is best for you and your family. In the end that’s what really matters.

Did you have struggle feeding? Comment below and don’t forget sharing is caring!

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My top ten newborn hints and tips

I am by no means a parenting expert! But I thought I’d put together a post of things that have really helped me when having a newborn. Because let’s face it, it’s hard! So hopefully you will find something that you or a friend might find useful.

1. Roll a blanket up and place in your babies Moses basket or crib to make him/her feel safe and caccooned, you can then put a fitted sheet over to make sure it doesn’t unravel. This is a great economy version of the sleepyhead pillows.

Place like this and then pop a fitted sheet over the top.

2. Thank you cards: instead of having to write out loads of thank you cards and post them why don’t you try the touch note app. You can send postcards for just 1 credit ( 10 credits= £17) any where in the world straight from your phone. And it’s lovely that they are personalised and who doesn’t want to show off their beautiful newborn baby.

3. Make life easy for yourself, have a changing mat, nappies and wipes upstairs and downstairs so you don’t have to keep running up and down the stairs. I have two canvas storage boxes downstairs one with nappies, wipes, breast pads, nipple cream, muslins and a change of clothes. The other one is for dirty clothes and muslins (because with the amount of sick/poo explosion you get through lots of clothes!)

4. Try not to book too many visitor in for one day! It may seem ok at the time but it is very tiring having a newborn, and you need time to rest. You also need time to bond and snuggle with your baby with out having to pass them round to visitors.

5. Accept help! I didn’t do this as much with my first, but this time round I’ve really appreciated the offers of help! If some says ‘ what can I do to help ‘ don’t just say ‘nothing’ it’s fine especially when you know your washing has just finished or you have a sink full of dishes. They wouldn’t ask if they didn’t want to help so just let them, I’m sure you would do the same. I am not ashamed to say that I have asked my mum to come round earlier just so I can go to the toilet ! I had a sleeping toddler and a baby that won’t let you put him down without screaming the house down! Needs must!

6. Purchase a nursing pillow and take it everywhere with you! It makes feeding a lot easier and It’s lovely to have round you even if you are just having baby cuddles.

7. Serve your meals in a bowl, it’s easier to eat while feeding! Because Sod’s law baby will want feeding as soon as your dinner is ready.

8. If you are going out in the morning pack your bag the night before, organisation is the key when you have children and it will make your morning a lot simpler. All you’ll have to deal with is the poo explosion just as your about to leave the house and the sick up in the car on the way!

9. If you like coffee invest in a cafeteria, there is nothing better than the smell of freshly ground coffee and it taste soooooo much better than instant. It doesn’t take much longer either! And we all know your gunna need the caffeine!

10. Finally Trust your instincts! You will have lots of people giving you advice but you know your baby better than anyone else. It can be hard to do, but your doing great, well done mama !

If you have any friends that are expecting or have just had a baby I’d be very grateful of you could share this with them!

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Hello baby . . . 

Introducing Elijah William Meek born 23/03/17 weighing 8lb 10oz, born in the midwifery led unit of the Norfolk and Norwich hospital with just gas and air for pain relief. 

How is Elijah 3 weeks old already ?? 

The last three weeks have come and gone in a blur of night feeds, nappies, visitors, washing ( how is there so much washing, thank fully my mother-in-law has been an amazing washing fairy!!) , toddler temper tantrums, car shopping ( our stupid car decided to break a week before Elijah was due!) and lots and lots of baby and family cuddles.

I’m not gunna lie the last three weeks have been hard work! But completely worth it! 

Adam had two weeks off after Elijah was born which was lovely, the last time we spent two weeks together was when Samuel was born. 

When we came home from the hospital with Elijah, it was 1:30pm just 7 hours after Elijah was born. My mum and sister were there to help us with Samuel which was great because Samuel was very wary of me, I had burst blood vessels all over my face and I looked shattered I was also walking rather strangely ! For a good week and a half Samuel wouldn’t cuddle me or kiss me which was absolutely heartbreaking, we were so close before.
Thankfully Samuel slowly started to give me more attention and affection and he is now back to his normal self! 

Elijah has been amazing he was 8lb 10 oz when he was born and lost just 7oz, we had a midwife appointment today and he is now 9lb 2oz! Feeding is going well, I’m exclusively breast feeding at the moment but I have found this hard as he feeds ALOT!! At least 12 times a day so I may introduce some formula for his last feed at night so Hubby can give him this and I can sleep!! But we will see how it goes. 

The last couple of days Elijah has been a lot more alert when he’s awake, and is now awake for 1-2 hours at a time ! 

Big brother Samuel is (most of the time ) brilliant and very gentle, and patient when I’m feeding Elijah ( although Mummy guilt really does set it if Elijah is having a cluster feeding session ) of course he has his moments when he is tired or hangry!! But for the amount of change he has had to cope with I think he is doing really well. 
I’ll give you a another update in the next few weeks. And more baby spam!! 

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Life is not always as it seems !! 

I went on my first outing with my two boys on Friday, we went to my friend Ruth’s house for a play date.
It was the first time they had met Elijah and she is due to have baby no. 2 in a week so we were all excited to catch up and talk babies and birth stories ( that’s for another post!)

We had a rather stress free morning, hubby had got Samuel up and dressed so I just had to dress Elijah feed him for the 5th time that day!! And get Samuel and myself some breakfast. There were no temper tantrums, and we got out of the house only 15 mins late !

We were met by lots of cuddles and lots of cake which was amazing, then we got down to what us ladies do best. . . Chatting !

We were chatting about the ups and downs, and how Samuel was adapting to being a big brother. Ruth my friend said to me ‘ well you look like you are coping really well, the photos on Facebook are lovely’

That got me thinking, if I’m doing this ‘blogging’ thing then I need to share more of the imperfect moments, not just on blog posts but on Facebook and Instagram as well. Because although I love my two boys and a lot of the time Samuel is a lovely big brother, there are times when I feel like I can’t cope and Samuel is an absolute terror!

So I promise to give you a more realistic view of A Norfolk Mummy raising two under two!

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Life as we know it is about to change. . . And it’s ok 

Baby no. 2 is due in 5 days and for the first time I’m not panicked by this, there is a sense of calm that’s come over me and everything has just started to fall into place. 
Samuel has been sleeping really well for the past week, every night except one he has slept through 7pm – 7 am which is amazing for him ! We’ve also seem to have cracked his nap, so he now sleeps for 2 hours during the day. The best thing is he actually enjoys going to bed, he loves his bedroom and his cot and all the teddies that join him!
The weathers better! I know it sounds weird but it means when we are at home we aren’t stuck in the lounge with the hum of CBeebies in the background, we can actually play in the garden to the sound of birds, and the odd car. It’s so much better for mine and Samuel’s sanity! 
The house is mostly de cluttered! As we are trying to fit another human being into our little 2 bed house I went on a major de clutter mission and I’m pleased to say it is now finished ( as long as you don’t look in the under stairs cupboard or the shed. . . Or the loft!!) 
Samuel is also becoming more and more independent by the day this is a bit bitter sweet, because I’m loosing my little baby but gaining a very funny toddler. I can’t believe he will be 2 at the end of May no one can prepare you for how quickly the time goes.
Now I’m sure when I have a newborn who has kept me up all night, and Samuel is demonstrating the best of the terrible two’s it may be a different story, but at the moment I feel pretty optimistic that maybe I can do this! Fingers crossed!